Somewhere along the way, women over 40 started getting called “difficult” for doing things that should have been normal all along. Saying no. Protecting our peace. Not answering every call. Not volunteering for stress. Not overexplaining. Not shrinking. Not rescuing grown people from situations they personally handcrafted. And somehow, that makes us the problem. Interesting. For years, many of us were praised for being flexible, dependable, patient, understanding, and strong.